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So, you're in your early or late 20's or maybe even 30 and you realize that your social life is pretty much non-existent, well join the club!
Whether you've moved to a new city or focused your energy on a new career, you are just one of the many singles who are contemplating loneliness. Out of the many things you'll learn about adulthood, the ultimate guide here is non-existent. No one tells you what to do when all your friends get into serious relationships, and you start wondering if it's time to get a new pet for some company, or start warming up to the homeless man on your street lol!
But it shouldn't be this hard, right? After all, you're just doing the same things as you did as kids but the difference is that now you actually have interesting things
to share so why is it so difficult making new friends as we get older?
In many cases though, the difficulty is just in our heads, it turns out that once you step out of your comfort zone and muster the courage to actually approach
people, you'll be surprised at just how many new friends you can make.
True they won't all be your BFF's but you'll have lots of acquaintances and casual friends. I know it can be difficult to start this process which is why I have created the ultimate guide to meeting new people.
In this article, you're going to learn some easy steps to get going in the right direction.
Be excited about invitations
What's your first reaction when someone invites you to a new event? Is it, oh I don't know, I'll need to check my agenda and my calendar, or is it wow that sounds
great! Let me check my schedule and see if I have anything important that day.
Although both replies seem the same, there's a huge difference between the two, and that's the level of excitement. The first shows that you're indifferent and
not much wanting to commit, while the second shows that you're a warm person and interested in new experiences.
The reality, we tend to give the first answer when we want to avoid showing our vulnerability. Still, to the person making the invite, it's not that fun and may avoid
you for the next event invitation so be 100% all in and don't be afraid to show that you are outgoing and want to meet new people.
Initiate social interactions
How many friends do you have on Facebook? How many of these are acquaintances? The average person has 10-20 people that they casually talk to even if they don't interact in real life.
Change this by sending everyone a movie invite to the cinema or movie theatre, a coffee club meeting, or a beer night. Ask people out, it's not weird and it makes you the leader of the group if things do work out. Don't be afraid to initiate social interactions by moving things into the real world.
Use technology to find likeminded people
Since we are on the topic of social media, you can use it to invite people to events you might be interested in. Out of all the local events organized by local bars,
museums, sporting organizations and so on you're going to find at least something that's interesting.
Don't be afraid to head out and actually see what's going on. You can go alone if you want to, no one's going to judge you by this, or you might meet more people
who are also out alone and remember you can leave at any time if you don't like the atmosphere. So use technology to put you in contact with like-minded people.
Add value to discussions
This one's a bit of a tricky one. Regardless of whether it's a business meeting, a chit-chat happening at the water cooler, offer your contribution to the discussion.
No, this doesn't mean you have to engage in gossip or rumors it means you should participate in discussions instead of sitting there trying to be invisible because
I have been that person before.
And guess what, it doesn't take all that long for invisibility to happen in some situations. If you don't have anything to say to make the discussion more interesting,
offer your positivity like some facial expressions or even reactions help. People like being around positive people and so, they will include you in the next group event.
So don't be the group outsider looking like you're shy or introverted, push yourself to participate in conversations otherwise you'll come across as cool and distant.
If you are horrible in discussions and don't know what to talk about at all, especially if you're a guy and you want to get really good at talking to girls or a
specific girl that you like you need to start working on how to add value to discussions.
Volunteer for events that you like
I should probably work on this one! Events happen everywhere, so look for ones that are interesting and offer your services as a volunteer. For instance, there are music events, cultural events, charities, cooking festivals, and so on.
Once you've identified the one's that you actually like, look for the coordinator and send them an email or Facebook message and ask them if they are looking for
volunteers, usually they are and would be happy to include you in their organization.
It's not just an amazing occasion to have a different experience, it's also an opportunity to meet new and like-minded people and connect with them. The secret here is not to join an event for the sole purpose of meeting new people, it's also about improving your life and learning different things about the stuff that you like
This way when you meet new people you'll already have a common passion and plenty of things to talk about.
Experience new things
This is more of a sequel to the previous step but it's more in the same area, except now I invite you to join more activities that you actually want to try. Join a
class at your local university. You could start running activities with groups of beginners.
You could even start a wine tasting course or anything that you like doing that will actually improve your life. Once you experience new things you will learn to
leave that pesky comfort zone and you open yourself up to the world.
Be the person you always wanted to be and don't hold back and you will meet new people in the process.
Have a favorite place?
Do you like drinking coffee in the morning? I do! Why not do this in a local coffee shop, something that's close to your house while you're reading the news or maybe doing some early morning work, the same goes for many activities if you do them on a regular basis you'll likely start seeing the same people over and over.
The more familiar you become with seeing the same people, the easier it will be to make conversations and start meeting new friends in your area!